Autistics guide to dating

27 Dec

Failed suicide attempts also have their own interesting way of clearing the mind for a little while, so they’re in a sort of grace period.

And then there are the little things, like learning to tune out a psychotic guy banging on the window and yelling threats at you. It’s interesting that psychiatric hospitals are used as a cliche for “a situation of total chaos” – I think I’ve already mentioned the time when the director of a psych hospital I worked at told us, apparently without conscious awareness or irony, that if Obamacare passed our hospital would have too many patients and “the place would turn into a madhouse”.

People get a chance to cool off and forget about whatever set them off. If they’re lucky, our social workers have managed to connect them to a better outpatient psychiatrist, care home, or support group, and maybe that will improve their lives sometime down the line.

But I don’t think anyone imagines there was some fundamental Quality Of Dangerousness in them which is now gone.

The only people you really have to worry about most of the time are the manic ones and occasionally severe autistics, and even they’re usually okay.

For a place where two dozen not-very-stable people are locked up in a small area against their will, violence is impressively rare.