One to one dating

13 Apr

One decided to end things despite “having enjoyed her time with me, for what it’s worth”. In the process, I also found out something horrible: I still believe technology can hack love, though that belief is likely irrational.Another was exceptionally caring, and made me feel special, valued. Technology is leverage, and I think I leveraged it wrong: the execution was fine but the strategy wasn’t.It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.

Dating at scale doesn’t go well with well fitting areas of interests. On the rare occasions when I was genuinely interested in a date, she wouldn’t be. With her there was no doubt: I needed a second date. Outside, she climbed on my shoulders and I ran uphill while she laughed. The possibility of meeting that many people made me want to meet every one of them, to make sure I wouldn’t miss the One.Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior.Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species, in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life.But my goal wasn’t to fuck around, I was here to find that special someone. We took turns, and she rowed with the vigor of a thousand vikings.The excess of choice made me wary of missing out on my perfect match. To make sure I wouldn’t miss out, I designed a rigorous first-date process. I went on 150 first dates but didn’t manage to find the One. At some point, we got lost and I used this opportunity to steal a magical first kiss. I wanted to tell her that I liked her, but I was anxious that she wouldn’t.