Tips for guys dating single moms

20 Mar

First of all, you have to even find the time to date.

Some women have great relatives who push them to get back out there.

I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.

It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “My mom was a single mom most of my childhood, so I have tons of respect for single mothers.

It’s forever and children deserve that commitment from you.

Dating a single mom and ultimately creating a blended family is extremely challenging too.

If it doesn’t, the unfortunate pitfall is that you’ve developed a bond with a child that may find out one day his/her father held negative opinions about you. No matter how good your intentions are, it could leave a damaging effect on them as adults knowing that their other parent never accepted you.

The crowd was a mix of college guys and young professionals. And when the topic of my work came up, I told a small group of guys that I was working on an interesting article that required me to tap real-life guys for their opinions on dating single moms. I would absolutely go on a date with a single mom and see where it could lead.

I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.

Traditionally men view the introduction of children to be a big step.

When you have talked about exclusivity and are both sure you share the same vision for the future of your relationship, then you can introduce the kids.