Dating at com

21 Apr

But my goal wasn’t to fuck around, I was here to find that special someone. We took turns, and she rowed with the vigor of a thousand vikings.

The excess of choice made me wary of missing out on my perfect match. To make sure I wouldn’t miss out, I designed a rigorous first-date process. I went on 150 first dates but didn’t manage to find the One. At some point, we got lost and I used this opportunity to steal a magical first kiss. I wanted to tell her that I liked her, but I was anxious that she wouldn’t.

Dating at scale doesn’t go well with well fitting areas of interests. On the rare occasions when I was genuinely interested in a date, she wouldn’t be. With her there was no doubt: I needed a second date. Outside, she climbed on my shoulders and I ran uphill while she laughed. The possibility of meeting that many people made me want to meet every one of them, to make sure I wouldn’t miss the One.

In my sample of 150, not once did a girl take the initiative, pick a place, and invite me. It is a very time, resource, and attention consuming thing. I met smart girls, pretty girls, fun girls and weird girls and it was great even though in the end, I didn’t find my soulmate.

I’m told it’s fear of appearing desperate, but fuck that! The whole point of automating was precisely to make it not so. PS: I will not open-source the code since it could be used to hurt people, but I might share it if you ask nicely.

Another issue is that culturally relationships are driven by men, at least in the first innings. Who knows, perhaps I’ll find my special someone through this post?

This is different in the more progressive Scandinavian cultures. I want to thank the amazing women who participated involuntarily in this experiment.